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Spice Song of the Week~ When It Was Over

SPICY SONG OF THE WEEK : It’s about sticking it out. Hope and Patience. Love conquering the trivial and the tremendous. You can make it!

When It Was Over

By Sara Groves and Ed Cash

When it was over and they could talk about it
She said there’s just one thing I have got to know
What in that moment when you were running so hard and fast
Made you stop and turn for home
He said I always knew you loved me even though I’d broken your heart
I always knew there’d be a place for me to make a brand new startOh love wash over a multitude of things
Love wash over a multitude of things
Love wash over a multitude of things
Make us wholeWhen it was over and they could talk about it
They were sitting on the couch
She said what on earth made you stay here
When you finally figured out what I was all about
He said I always knew you’d do the right thing
Even though it might take some time
She said, Yeah, I felt that and that’s probably what saved my lifeOh love wash over a multitude of things
Love wash over a multitude of things
Love wash over a multitude of things
Make us whole

There is a love that never fails
There is a healing that always prevails
There is a hope that whispers a vow
A promise to stay while we’re working it out
So come with your love and wash over us.

Listen Here

(not an official video, just listen ;)

 

Sex Position of the Week~ The Lazy Partner!

No, just kidding….sort of.  This is really called the Right Angle Sex Position.  One partner does do most of the work, but if you like it deep, this one is for you.

Sex Position of The Week #2

      In this position the partner doing the penetrating kneels, keeping their upper body upright, creating a sort of lap for the partner being penetrated to sit in. The partner being penetrated straddles the kneeling partner supporting themselves both by wrapping their arms around their partner but also with their feet on either side of them on the bed.

Pros of the Raised Kneeling Sex Position

  • This position allows for a lot of physical contact, it’s like a giant embrace.
  • This position is face to face.
  • Unlike many sex positions, this one gives the partner being penetrated more control, without them being on top
  • Both partners have some control of the movement, with the kneeling partner using their hands and their ability to raise or lower their legs and the partner being penetrated using their legs and pushing up with their feet for control.

 

Cons of the Raised Kneeling Sex Position

  • This position requires very good knees, and could be quite hard on the knees
  • This position doesn’t allow for a lot of movement or thrusting
  • This position requires good balance

 

Position Of The Week:

Try it ,you might like it!

 

Cherry’s Secret- We’re Talking Periods

Cherry’s Secret- We’re Talking Periods

******LADIES ONLY POST******

{Men, you are welcome to read at your own risk, but this is about Feminine Hygiene products. Consider yourself warned.}♥

In biblical Hebrew times, when a woman was on her period, she had a sort of reprieve.  A reprieve from sex or any physical contact from her husband in fact.  Not even a brush on the shoulder was aloud! (Can you imagine?) She was then to cleanse herself in the ritual Mikveh bath for purification before she could go make love to her husband.

{It was a God ordained law, and many spiritual reasons pointing to Jesus did this represent.  Unfortunately, they also tacked on many “man-made”  laws that were outright ridiculous! }

During a woman’s time of the month, she was deemed  ”unclean”  AND for the whole next week AFTER!!!! Yes, you heard me…14 whole days! 14 days of no touchy touchy and especially no nookie!  No wonder women who hang out together, will naturally start menstruating together, because God knew they would need some company!

Now, I am not going to make this a bible lesson post, but lets just say, it did give the woman a break, and the men, well, they had to learn to control themselves. But, we don’t live this way anymore

No, some of our husbands are not too fond of going 2 days, let alone 2 weeks without being able to fondle, smooch and make love to us.  Some of us do rely on our periods to give us a break, it seems like it’s a mandated one. You tell him, ”I got FLO today”…. He says, “OOOOOkay……gotcha.”  and he goes his merry way.

To be honest, during my period, I am not a pretty sight, nor do I really feel all that well. It’s kind of a ”bad time” for me physically, and many others too feel this way, especially in the first couple days.  But, toward the end, I am feeling bit randy and want to be more intimate.

Now, I know what you’re thinking….”what then, does Cherry want to sell me on that will allow my husband access to my private torment when she herself likes to be left alone during this time?”

Okay, let me explain.

Sometimes, we have to, want to, make love.

Reasons?

Sometimes we can’t get our schedules in synch and he has to leave on a business trip.

Sometimes Most of the time, our husbands are just horny.

Sometimes, our hubby just got back from a long trip and he’s missed us dearly.

Sometimes, WE are just horny.

Sometimes, (and this just fumes me) we are ON A VACATION !!!!

Sometimes we just like it whenever we feel like it and don’t want restrictions!

Yes, a visit from our fine red friend,  can come at the most opportune times.  So, what is a girl to do to have a little fun around here?

Never fear, there is a light at the end of this ugly tunnel.

It’s not a big secret. It’s in your local drugstore. It’s sorta new and unusual.  It’s changed the way I do periods.

Soft Cups-Made by Instead.  Have you heard of them?  Seen them?

(they have disposable, and reusable now)

Maybe you already use them for your period.  Fabulous!  I myself use these and a Lunette Cup for regular days because it has two sizes and it’s awesome.

But, these Soft Cups are one size fits all, which you know is not accurate, but, they do get the job done on light days. Soft Cups are a relatively new innovation that were actually designed as an alternative to tampons and sanitary towels (napkins) for women. Soft cups consist of a round piece of silicone with a sort of rubber bag underneath. They are inserted into the vagina like tampons but rest under the cervix and the soft cup collects the menstruation blood. They can be left in for 12 hours!!!!!  So much longer than tampons.

The other added benefit -

(((((YOU CAN have sex with them in)))))

{Yes, they are almost like a diaphragm, except disposable, but they are NOT a contraceptive. Some woman are using these for conception. Inserting them after intercourse.}

Stop hyperventilating. Breathe. You can do this…if you want to.   I am just giving you this option for when you need it. The poor, segregated Hebrew woman didn’t have any options. You do.

{Side note:  Husbands are not allowed to bring this up if they are sneaking and reading this post. This is your wife’s decision. Skedaddle. }

What is the big deal????  You literally cannot feel them in, and you cannot feel your husbands love muscle up there either.  They also keep you from leaking out, so you feel clean and confident during your lovemaking or during his oral behaviors.  This is why they are needed for those times described above.  You can have sex without the mess!!!

{Let me repeat: you can wear them while you have sex. You won’t feel that being rammed in deeper, and your husband will not notice them either. They should not be used with IUD users for you can accidentally grab the string of IUD.}

Try them, practice and get the feel for them.  They take some time  in order to get them in just right. It’s best to do it for the first time on your lightest days. You also cannot be afraid to ”go there” with your own body to get them out. That can be the messy part. You do have to be able to get more personal with yourself using these, but the benefits for a  more trouble free period is so worth it.

Just think, the next time you are on vacation and old faithful starts, you can at least have an option now to use if you want to enjoy that vacation or horny time to the fullest :)  I am sure your husband, who is NOT READING THIS POST, will really appreciate it, and you will too.

So, who has just now heard of this and is excited to use it?

The Things We Do For L♥ve – 3 for 3

~Anytime you, our amazing followers, write in with stories or funny comments about how Married Spice has helped your marriage bed, we will post it under this title ~The Things We Do For L♥ve.

Recently we heard from Rick, (you can read his blog here) who was a skeptic at first. But, all it took was one post about something he already enjoyed and wham!  He was going to take the risk and dive in spicy style.

Thanks so much Rick!~~~~~~~

Ok, I have to say I was very skeptical at first when I heard all your hype over coconut oil. I am a massage therapist and I hate oils. They are just too messy to work with. Creams and lotions are best when it comes to most massages. Of course I can appreciate the messiness of oils when it comes to the “special” massages reserved my wife however I then couldn’t get over the whole coconut thing. I can’t stand coconut.

Well, after seeing the post about the poncho liner I had to give this all further consideration. I spent 6 months in Saudi Arabia during the first Gulf War. I used a poncho liner most of that time as a sleeping bag. I fully understood the benefits and conveniences of this little item & could concur with your assessment of it in this use as well.

I also had heard of the Coochy Cream product. I do shave my head as well as finely, and neatly trim my beard, so I thought let’s go for it and try all this out. For our 23rd anniversary I rented a secluded cabin in the woods and procured these products.

WOW! You guys are 3 for 3 in our book. For those out there that are still on the fence about the coconut oil, take the plunge, IT’S AMAZING!! The cream can be easily and descretly purchased in non-scented form on Amazon & I just sought out a local Army surplus store for the poncho liner.

Chip & Cherry, you guys ROCK! Keep up the great work & inspiration. God bless.

What Your Wife Wants For Christmas- A Man’s Guide to Giving

   Don’t waste your money this Christmas on those edible underwear and kama sutra feather ticklers…give her something that money can’t buy! I have  put together the ultimate gift guide of things to DO [or not do] for your wife this season!  Guaranteed to make her fall madly in love with you all over again[and then of course, fall into the sack].

Yes, I have learned about these the hard way, guys. I thought that a vacuum cleaner, an occasional Poinsettia, a  bracelet from Forever 21 and cozy slippers, were just what would get Cherry in the mood to kiss me all night under the mistletoe…..WRONG!

So, I decided to help a brother out by giving  you a heads up on what they REALLY want from you for Christmas always.

[Warning: this will make her coo,dance and holler in anticipation, wondering what you'll do next. ]

#1 Start Really FAST

I know, I know the old saying…  ”slow hands”.  But seriously, if I take too much time, she’s goes nuts and not in a good way. She wants if fast and furious.  Let’s just say, get on it!

You see that dog puke on the floor, drop to your knees & make it disappear fast.  This also includes, wiping your mess off the toilet seat ASAP!  If you wait until she has to tell you, you will have to do 2 more things to make up for it.

#2 Hit All Her Areas

She wants you to be aware of ALL her zones….not just where you left your underwear on the floor. Every space is hers.  She owns it. It pleases her to keep it nice and tidy and clean. So when you are mopping the floor or vacuuming, make sure you use the long stick and get the corners real good too.  They love that.  Make is sparkle. Make it so you can eat off the floor just in case she doesn’t like the new lawnmower you bought for her.

#3 JUST DO IT, never ask.

Nothing bothers a woman more as when you ask her “do you like it?”, “where do you want me?’ or “what do you want?’

Stop this immediately.

Nothing spells UN-M-A-N-L-Y more than being indecisive and unthoughtful.

When little junior has a load in his drawers, or the dishes are piled high in the sink….don’t you dare ask her if she’d want YOU to do it.  Of course she does!  You asking is a way of crossing your fingers and praying for her to say no.  What’s funny is more than likely, she WILL say NO….. “no, I’ll just do it”.  So, you breathe a sigh of relief , just long enough to realize that it is the ONLY relief you’ll be getting tonight.

Don’t ask, bite your tongue and just change that diaper!

Nothing gets her more hot, then seeing her man contributing to home management duties.

#4 Get Dirty,Let Her See You Sweat

Nothing spells M-A-N, like hard laborious work.  This could be by working out, mowing, trimming trees, digging holes, moving hay, building a tree house….these projects somehow really turn a woman on.  She might not even care that you smell like a sewer,  if she knows it was for the right reasons [and not because you went fishing].

Taking the initiative to care for your body and your home is a sure fire way to get your woman to let YOU make HER, your next project.

#5 If You Like It Then You Shoulda….. Thought Of It Yourself

If  there is one thing that really gets them totally turned off, it’s the image of you mathmatically disecting or following the ”how to” formula for getting lucky with her!  Ironic? Yes. God did not put us on earth to even TRY to understand the mind of a woman, so don’t try to figure it out.

Just know that by  telling her you “just read a blog/tweet/seminar” on “how to get lucky with  her”, is destined to create an argument.  All your efforts will not be recognized without the right intent perceived in her eyes.  You don’t want to do things to ”get things”.  She wants you to do them, just because you love.

“Well, Chip and Cherry said….”   No, No, No.

Don’t bring us into it!

She wants this to come FROM YOU.

We are just here to spark a little creativity, to challenge you to get the LAZY out, and to inspire you to remember to remember. So, we don’t want to be a to-do list for you to check off tonight.  Trust me, she’ll know. Then you’ll be banging your head against the wall instead of banging…well, you know.

Take these tips and all the others that you read, and make them your own.

Digest them, let them simmer…make it a lifestyle to be a great husband.

Then, you will give her the BEST Christmas gift ever. YOU.  Then you will be the luckiest man ever.

Merry Christmas!

Peep Show

Now that we got your attention…

You want to know what the Pepper’s are up to lately, don’t you?

It’s okay…we want to know what you are doing too.

What in the world brings countless Americans together on a M/T/W/Th/F/Sat/Sun night in front of the tube  to voyeristically look at other people having fun on Reality TV?

What drives us to want to watch how other people live their daily lives….their boring, mundane, ritualistic, typical American lives?

Is it that we really want to spy on others?

Maybe.

There have been times I would of loved to have been a fly on THAT wall….

But, I think it’s more.

More than just a cursery interest…more than just spying….

I think it’s validation.

You want to know that there are others out in the world  just.like.you.

You want to know that you are not alone.

That your habits, idiosyncrasies , ticks, or annoyances are things that another human being somewhere, shares with you.

So, we peer into their lives via Fox, ABC, NBC, HBO, blogs, twitter, instagram, facebook…just to get a glimpse of the familiar.

So, let us usher you into the Spice World of Chip and Cherry Pepper, and see if you can relate.

Maybe you read Married Spice to get great tips on ‘Christian Sex”, maybe you just want to see how others do it (no pun).

Whatever your reason, it’s yours, and you are welcome here.

Just so you know, we aren’t perfect. (I think I have a stretch mark somewhere).

We aren’t famous. (quick, unfollow us, NOW)

We aren’t therapists (no quacks here)

What we are ,is someone just.like.you.

We just package it real nice with peppers and hearts, and spicy talking.

All that’s missing is a big red bow on top!

After all the years we’ve been together, we’ve certainly accumulated quite a laundry list of stories and do’s and don’ts.

The reason why we are still married is because we picked ”the right one” and we were dogged determined from the start to make it wonderful, to make it work, to stay put.

This only works for those that are commited to an ideal greater than themselves..and those that happen to be great serial givers.

I don’t say “because we love God”, or “because we are Christians”, because quite frankly, that just doesn’t cut the mustard with us anymore.

Do you know how many ‘Christians’  we know  ”love God” and are now divorced?  Too many to count.

Do you know how many non-professed Christians we know who are still married 20+years?  Too many to count.

The point is, it’s not about your belief in God that keeps you married.

It’s your commitment to your spouse you made before God and others, and a fierce determination to be totally selfless that keeps you married.

We honor Him in our commitment, and try our best to please Him, so that helps for sure!

{Transparent Cherry moment= I don’t know if I could stay married to a man who abused me verbally or physically.

I don’t know if I could stay with a man who sat day in and day out on his rear playing video games, or went out all the time, while me and his kids cried out for attention.

I don’t know if I could stay married to a man who was selfish and ugly towards others.

I don’t know if I could stay married to a man who wouldn’t have sex with me anymore because he found me unattractive, or because he was addicted to porn & refused to seek help.

What if at 18 my ignorance was loud and my youth was strong, and I married the first guy who pursued me, and then knocked me up?

What if he cheats, apologizes, and cheats again, and again, and again?

I don’t know if I could stay.

So, please know, although we love God with all our hearts, we also chose correctly, and are strangely  fiercely devoted to one another.  We aren’t going to pretend to have all the answers, or tell you what to do.  But, if you are in a situation like these, our prayers go out to you. But, we aren’t going to tell you to “get a divorce” or say that  ”God says to stick it out” either.}

What we offer is a way to keep one part of your married life on the fun path.  To add some variety, some spark, some alternative to what your mama didn’t teach you.

As you know, we’ve been married for 18 years, and have 3 pepperonchini’s .

Chip is a very fun, yet overworked, and underpaid professional man. He does medical missions quite frequently in third world countries, and he’s the hottest man on the planet. I on the other hand have a million missions/passions/creative ventures I’m up to my ears with, have a part time job in the software field, as well as being a mom, taxi driver and Chip’s sex slave.

So, call us busy.

We are just.like.you.

We also have a mortgage, 2 cars and a naughty Lab.

We try to make life fun.  It’s hard sometimes, but, if you can’t have fun, well, you will certainly not like living!

Chip teaches bible study at church, (we have done so for 20+ years) and we still don’t know a thing!

Why Married Spice?

We saw a need.  We were tired of so many marriages struggling in this area.  There is no one thing to blame here; Church, upbringing, bad teachers…Countless people especially in the Christian denomination were coming to us for sex advice.  Asking us what we do to keep it hot and to keep the fire burning after so many years.

Why they picked us I have no idea! Must be the way Chip talks about me, or grabs my butt in public. (jk) Maybe it’s all those “Barbie and Ken” refrences we get, so they assume we mate well. We don’t know exactly.

Either way, we had quite a few experiences with counseling others, and wanted to do something on a grand scale that didn’t involve quitting our jobs or doing an infomercial.

Married Spice is our way of helping you enjoy your married sex life with gusto, with laughter, and above all with LOVE.

So, there you have it. You’ve peaked into our lives a bit. What else you wanna know?

Boo Boo Spice


“Boo Boo Spice?”

“What in the world are the Pepper’s talking about ?’  I can already hear it in your voices.

Are you having a hard time making amends after your spouse ticks you off ?

Are you tired of turning away from each other instead of moving towards one another?

Are you finding it hard to be intimate and forgiving even AFTER you’ve said sorry?

Then, you need some BOO BOO SPICE.

Having a disagreement with your spouse is where you find yourself the most prideful, the most hurt, the most unreasonable, and the most UGLY.

I hate it when Chip and I have an argument about such “non-essentials” sometimes. You know the ones…over stacking the dishwasher just so, or leaving the toilet seat up, or how he likes to play with the kids……  These sound silly but they can escalate to where we are flat out annoyed by each other’s presence.  Even if we’ve said sorry, and tried to enjoy the fake make up kiss, somehow things still aren’t right.  This is not what we want or where we want to stay.

Thankfully, in our 18 years, we’ve never walked away, slammed doors, said bad words, or slept alone because of a fight.  That is us.  Not everyone can claim such a boast, I am just thankful we don’t have hot boiled temperaments.

But sometimes we do find our connection is WAY OFF where we don’t WANT to be in the same room, or we are still very cranky towards each other. This means we are in dire need of some rekindling to break  down the invisible wall that is still there.

Like Chip would always say to me if I am in this state:  ”You’re blocking, you’re blocking.”   (as he’s all up in my private space trying to hug.)

{and of course this is one of the reason’s I love him so.}

So, what do we do?

First, we stop what we are doing (being mad) and we try out some creative solutions for rekindling and fixing those boo boo moments.  Here is our list  of  boo boo spice. See if there is one that will fit your fits!

~Wash each other’s hair.

Sounds corny and ”out of Africa” ish, but it works.

Something about scrubbing and bubbles, and a good head massage will make me say ”what were we arguing about?”

You can even brush, color, gel or cut your spouse’s hair too.

I like giving Chip a mowhawk. (don’t ask).

~ Feed each other

Not in a sexual way, although, it very well could end up that way.

Just take your lunch, dinner, or breakfast at the moment, sit across from each other, and begin spoon feeding.

This is not as easy as you think!  Nobody wants to feed someone they are mad at, and you don’t want to be at the other’s mercy.  You will quickly want to move on and make up or hopefully….. make out!

Warning: do this with the attitude of restoration (you’ll end up on the floor laughing )

Do this with retribution: you will end up fighting again.

~Wash Their Feet

Chip is so good at this, he does it even when we aren’t mad at each other. He’s done it for our kids, and our bible study friends sometimes.  It’s an act of humility(cure for pride).

*spice tip: good romantic gesture also. After washing, massage feet, paint toes….

When you are washing one’s feet, you can’t help but want to ask for forgiveness.

*warning: know your spouses tickle tolerance first.

~Workout Together

Whether it’s a jog around the block or spotting each other with weights at the gym….nothing says I love you no matter what, like stink and sweat.

This creates a teamwork attitude.  As a married couple, you should tackle all things together as a team.  This will bring you back to that priority quick.

*spice tip: this is the only place where we will allow YELLING  lovingly cheering, at your spouse. “Come on, one more!!!! You can do it! Don’t you stop, focus, give me another 5!”  This is a highly erotic activity to do with your spouse all the time.

~Stare Into Each Other’s Eyes While Holding Hands

For 30 minutes.

Bet you can’t keep the tears from falling.

The eyes are the windows to the soul in this exercise. You won’t be mad at each other for long.

~Paint/Draw Each Other

One at a time, sit across form them and paint as best as you can, your version of your spouse.  Every detail.

*Spice tip: if you’re brave and on the up swing of your making up , do it naked.

Switch places.

Then, show off your work to one another.  Pretty fun time.

Chip always makes me look like I have “exaggerated features”. Go figure.

What other things can you think of to re-connect to get those yucky feelings out, and the love feelings back in?

Our hearts break every time we have a fight by wasting precious time we could be spending doing something more useful.

Have fun trying out some of these the next time you are trying to make up!

Better yet, I think these are good to try any time you want to be intimate and connect.

Add more spice by making them more sexual and romantic. You know, add coconut oil and squirt guns. ;)

Now, I think I need to find Chip and….wash something…..

Heya, Werd Ya Git Dat?

There is a question we hear pretty often whenever and wherever we use our next

Spice Rack Essential out in public!

“Where did you get that?”

Yes, we actually BRING  it into the wide open spaces of God’s greener grasses, the sandy shores, the deep blue seas, heavily populated kiddie parks, as well as our into our Love Cave.

But don’t be alarmed!  It’s completly safe for public as well as private use.

As a matter-of-fact, it’s completely incognito!

Yes, this spice blends in and embraces the surroundings with extreme spicy cameleon like qualities.

Until someone notices it of course, and they ALWAYS notice it.

Are you totally bewildered yet?

Our next Spice Rack Essential is…….dun– dun– dun…

A nylon blanket.

Not just any nylon blanket mind you;

A top U.S. Military Waterproof Poncho Liner!!!!!!

You know we are practical, unconventional and crazy right?

I know, you are just waiting for the day Chip and Cherry introduce you to some new wave electric sex toy.

You’ll be waiting a. long.time. (we never say never).

Now, we are all for having fun with your spouse in the sack.

But, most toys are just that, toys.  We actually have a few.

But, they aren’t Essential.

Besides, our interest level varies, and gosh darn it, they always need new batteries!!!!!!

We are into long term spices here.

We know the look of this fine camoflaged beauty isn’t well, um, SEXY.

(maybe for you Rambo types I’ll admit)

But, for the most of us, especially women, this just doesn’t say “pretty”.

It screams MAN, or HUNT, or even…..RUN!

But, ladies, I tell you, color aside, you will LOVE this blanket.

Men, we already know you love it, we had you at “Spice Rack”…..

It is in all seriousness, the most diverse, multi-use, blanket ever.

It comes in a few hiding colors of your choice; desert camo, woods, or jungle camo. (some sites have black, blue or khaki too)

Besides that, this blanket gives Cherry some of those sentimental memories of her daddy.  He brought one of these back from Vietnam, and then used it as the family beach blanket for years.

She was determined to find one after we got married to use for our own memories (and we have made many.)

Now, not sure if Mom and Pop Cherry used it for their sexcapades, but we don’t doubt it.

Cherry even has had to run and tackle folks from trying to make off with this blankie because she had put stuff on it at yard sales.

“NO IT’S NOT FOR SALE= GO GET YOUR OWN!”

Lets go over the uses in and out of the bedroom, since you don’t seem to be  convinced.

~It’s warm and cool (polyester filled and yet still so cozy)

~It’s WATERPROOF (squirt gun fight anyone?) Dries super fast ~*mom essential for sick kids

~It’s makes a protective barrier (makes a good love making coverlet, for you know….coconut oil uses )

~It’s a Windbreaker (for your trampoline and tree house wild nights)

~It Doesn’t hold dirt/sand/bugs ( take it the beach,a picnic or outdoor love session, and shake it off in seconds)

~It’s invisible. (okay, not invisible, it blends in?)

~It makes a great tent  (see windbreaker) ( kids LOVE IT- it has laces on every corner to tie down)

~It’s stores super thin  (rolls up in a bag for hot or cold nights to have some hanky panky in the car)

~It’s just plain FUN!!!

Just think of all the places you can use this blanket.

It’s easy to use, clean, store and play.

That makes it, in the Pepper’s Spicy opinion, essential. ;)

So, where did we get it? That’s a long story.  But, you can google Military Waterproof Poncho liner and viola!

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