5 Silent Signs That Predict Your Marriage Won’t Last

There is no exception whether you are thinking to get married, already married or planing to get married, you’ll at some point question your marriage or future coupling as you start this life long journey.

The questions could be specific or general, but no matter the question, the topic of marriage brings up lots of excitement, curiosities, emotions and vulnerabilities.

Quite a lot of couples will be eager to know if the marriage will pass the test of time, while others could be less bothered and focus on red flags. There are conventional word of marriage wisdom a couple can apply to achieve this goal. But there are more hidden underlined words and interesting habits that predict a marriage won’t last.

I am now married for seven years. We met each other in college and our relationship blossomed and now we are in the midst of raising these amazing kids.

Looking at the years gone bye has been an roll-coaster ride, filled with laughter, love, challenges. We both have a tight and chaotic working schedule. Some times life comes with its own whirlwind.

When my man pop up the question, holding a ring ” Saying will you marry me?” I was in dream land 🙂 cloud nine, blurry fantasy of love. At that point neither of us was really paying attention to the challenges, that could arise in the future.

Indeed we discussed about usual topics like how many kids we would love to have, when to have them, how best to manage our finance and retirement. But we were unprepared or never predicted the surprise, challenges and bombshell that cam up as we journey together as a couple.

Each time we encountered uncertainties, challenges and issues, it came down to one thing! how are we going to handle this, do we agree, do we not, and what is the probability we are going to make it through.

In order find lasting solutions for couple struggling with the similar issues. I interviewed a psychologist, match maker and divorce lawyer. As revealed, here are the five main signs, according to these experts from varying field, that can predict a marriage that won’t last or pass the test of time.
 

Sign #1. Lack of “Flexibility”:

“These tend to be the worst divorces because the rigid partner does not tend to change,” Chloe Wolman, a divorce attorney in Los Angeles. “The rigid partner will often continue to insist that things go their way even after the divorce papers are filed.”

Wolman says the intriguing part is that rigid partners often pairs up with compromising partners making it a balanced relationship.

“She wants things a certain way, and he’s willing to accommodate those wants. Easy, right? No quite,” Wolman says. “Even the most easy going partner will eventually break down.”

Wolman explained further that partner may require their spouse to act in a specific way, have a specific buying routine, and stick to certain layed down “rules”. She points out that this rigidity manifest as being self absorbed, and refusal to accept dissent, which is the number one predictor of divorce based on her findings.
 

Sign #2. Putting Yourself First Before The Marriage

“When work and everything else becomes more of a priority than your relationship or significant other, you are doomed,” Bekker says. “Don’t expect a person to just always be there. If you neglect your partner long enough it will take a toll on them emotionally and it is hard to come back from that.”

“If your spouse doesn’t make you a priority and if you fail to feel special, you will lose interest in the relationship,” Regina DeMeo, a divorce attorney in District of Columbia says.

“The commitment simply falls apart.” She clearly points out that a person who puts work, friends, and extended family in the front seat is basically taking their spouse for granted.

Matchmaker and founder of Hunting Maven, Julia Bekker agrees that not finding time to be with each other can create loneliness and unforeseen issues for couples.

“When work and everything else becomes more of a priority than your relationship or significant other, you are doomed,” Bekker says. “Don’t expect a person to just always be there. If you neglect your partner long enough it will take a toll on them emotionally and it is hard to come back from that.”
 

Sign #3. Someone Is Indifferent Towards The Marriage:

This is one aspect that my mother has advised me over the years. She always says this words “if you’re not happy, sad and angry most of the times, you know are walking on slippery slop and ultimately it’s probably over.

Date to Soulmate founder and psychologist, Michael Arn, confirms my mom’s words of wisdom. He says you can
easily know if your relationship is in muddy waters, if you don’t have any feelings towards your partner. He continued further the hard truth about indifference, saying that it shows “you are no longer fighting for your relationship.”

Check out this video here to learn about 3 top techniques that will help you save and repair your relationship with your spouse … even if they aren’t interested at the moment.
 

Sign #4. When You Have A “No Conflict” Marriage

The believe or idea of a happy, “perfect” marriage without conflict is one desired by almost everyone in the society.

But couples therapist, Marni Feuerman says, no matter how much they love themselves, they have conflicts and disagreements to some degree, and if they admit they are not, then they are lying or exhibiting some definite avoidance behavior.

“Couples who routinely avoid conflict slowly drift apart,” Feuerman says. “It’s like the music of the relationship is playing but neither is getting on the dance floor.” She says these types of couples eventually just become roommates and the marriage (and love) dies.
 

Sign #5. Too Different Personality: You Two Don’t Have Enough In Common:

Like they say “opposites attract” most of the time, it doesn’t translate into marriage longevity. Bekker a match maker, says she sees it play out all of the time.

“Difference can be a good and necessary thing if they are bringing something positive to one another and adding to the relationship,” Bekker says. “But if you are two completely different people with entirely different upbringings, values, lifestyles, and desires, chances are it won’t work.”

She believes both couple will always try so hard to conform or one or both of you will eventually become tired of never being on the same page.

But if you have observed many of these signs in your spouse lately and you have a sense that things just aren’t normal in your marriage, then I advise that you act to turn things around now before it gets any worse!

The ideal place to begin is by watching this free video by marriage guru Brad Browning… he clarifies where you’ve been going wrong and what you should do to make your spouse fall back in love with you.

Click here to watch the video now, before it’s taken down.

All the best and good luck !

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