The most effective way to reverse a breakup is to avoid it in the first place. Let’s go through some of the things you can do when you’re in a relationship to keep the attraction alive…
1.) Quit Being So Needy, And keep A Lid on The Jealousy:
One of the least attractive characteristics you can portray is insecurity. Jealousy and ‘neediness’ are both extreme examples of insecurity, so they can cause some real damage to a relationship.
Jealousy is a natural feeling that we all have to endure to a certain degree, but the key is to suppress these feelings of jealousy unless you have a very, very good reason to feel jealous.
Most of the time, you simply need to trust your partner and have faith that he or she is not being disloyal.
‘Neediness’ is a similar attraction-killing trait… but this will be a topic for another day: no-one likes being in a relationship where your partner is constantly seeking validation, so quit being ‘needy’ or ‘clingy’.
2.) Avoid Falling Into A Boring Routine:
The first few months of any new relationship are usually exciting and passionate, but things can often quickly become stale if you and your partner don’t make an effort to keep things interesting.
Avoiding boring routines doesn’t require anything extreme… you don’t have to go skydiving on Tuesdays and skinny dipping on Thursdays, for example… you just have to mix it up enough to avoid either one of you becoming bored.
A romantic weekend getaway, for example, is a great way to break the routine… you could take your partner to a cooking class, try out the newest restaurant in town, or spontaneously give your partner a small gift. Make an effort to spice things up in the bedroom, too — your sex life is just as prone to becoming ‘stale’.
3.) Don’t Give up On All Your Social Life:
Some people have a tendency to quickly lose contact with friends and colleagues when they jump into a new relationship.
If you’re guilty of this, and you’ve started to grow apart from your friends and social circle since you entered into your current relationship, then now is the time to reconnect with them. No couple, regardless of how incredibly compatible and deeply in love they may be, should be spending 100% of their time together.
It’s very important to keep other areas of your life intact, too… a well-balanced social life can really help keep your relationship healthy and assist in keeping your jealousy and neediness in check.
Generally speaking, your romantic partner should be one important element of your life, not the only element.
4.) Swallow Your Pride And Accept Responsibility:
Arguments are normal in romantic relationships, but you need to learn how to have mature disputes that lead to productive solutions. Yelling and screaming, hurling insults, trying to get ‘revenge’… these are all things that can be toxic to a relationship.
Both you and your partner need to learn how to settle arguments in a mature way. Sometimes, you may need to swallow your pride and apologize to your partner even if you feel like you were ‘right’ and he or she was ‘wrong’ in a given argument.
Accept responsibility for fights that get out of hand, and be willing to step up and be the bigger person if it will help settle the issue and avoid further conflict.
5.) Remember That Mutual Attraction Is What Holds Relationships Together:
It’s incredibly easy to get wrapped up in your day-to-day life and forget that attraction is the glue that holds relationships together.
This is something that’s very important to remember, though, because it will help you identify problems that cause a loss of attraction and stop them before they lead to more serious issues or a breakup. Your partner fell in love with you for a reason.
He or she found your personality and the traits you possess attractive, so don’t suddenly introduce new unattractive characteristics that could reverse this attraction. Avoid being clingy, jealous, insecure, and possessive… these are all major attraction-killers.
If your relationship is on the brink of collapse and you’re worried that a breakup might be on the horizon, I’d be happy to help you turn things around and make sure that doesn’t happen…
You can sign up for my personal coaching service at www.BreakupBrad.com/Coaching I work with my coaching clients on an ongoing basis, and I’ll help you identify the problems that are plaguing your relationship and offer a series of solutions to re-build the attraction and develop a healthier, more mature relationship.